98% naturally derived ingredients
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Conditioner / Everyday rinse-out, detangling
Scent:
Notes: floral, sweet.
Manufacturer page: notyourmothers.com
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Lower cost than most conditioners
$0.59/oz at 15.2 oz — less than 86% of the 689 conditioners , which mostly run $0.91–3.10/oz. The cost less.
Great for
Maybe skip if
What the formula actually does
Each row says where it comes from: F means we derived it from this product’s own ingredient list, S means it is a claim the brand makes that the formula neither confirms nor contradicts.
Conditioning agents sit high in the list — this is a detangling formula.
Butters near the top: a heavy, softening formula.
Middle of the range — noticeable on fine hair, light on coarse hair.
Humectants near the top — water-binding is a headline mechanism here.
No protein or amino acids in the list.
Water-insoluble silicones or waxes: a detergent wash is what removes them.
No chelating agent in the list.
Fragrance is listed; it sits below the working ingredients.
Ingredients that matter
The workhorse ingredients plus anything lower down that changes a decision. These chips name what an ingredient does — they are not safety scores, and no ingredient here is rated good or bad on its own.
| Ingredient | What it does | Why it matters | Chip |
|---|---|---|---|
| WaterWater (Aqua) (Eau) | solvent | The base everything else is dissolved in | Neutral |
| Cetearyl Alcohol | fatty alcohol | Thickens and conditions — not a drying alcohol | Softens |
| Distearyldimonium Chloride | conditioning agent | Conditions and softens — this is what makes it comb through | Detangles |
| Behentrimonium Chloride | conditioning agent | Conditions and softens — this is what makes it comb through | Detangles |
| Glycerin | humectant | Pulls water into the hair | Moisturizes |
| Quaternium-80 | silicone | Smooths the cuticle and adds shine | Buildup |
| Mangifera Indica (Mango) Seed Butter | butter | Heavy softening — this is what makes it rich | Heavy |
| Gardenia Tahitensis Flower Extract | botanical extract | A plant extract, marketed as much as functional | Neutral |
| FragranceFragrance (Parfum) | fragrance | The scent | Fragrance |
| Linalool | fragrance | The scent | Fragrance |
| Hexyl Cinnamal | fragrance | The scent | Fragrance |
| Coumarin | fragrance | The scent | Fragrance |
US labelling rules put ingredients above 1% in descending order of amount; below 1% they may be listed in any order. Annotations keep three readings separate: the ingredient's general function, its role in this product type, and what its position can support.
The base of almost every rinse-off and cream hair product. It carries everything else and is normally the first ingredient on the label.
Listed in the first three ingredients, it is likely a structural part of this formula.
A waxy fatty alcohol - nothing like drying alcohol. It gives conditioners their body and leaves a soft, smoothing film on the hair.
In conditioner, cetearyl alcohol gives the emulsion its creamy structure and helps it spread evenly through the hair. Its emollient layer adds slip and a smoother feel.
Listed in the first three ingredients, it is likely a structural part of this formula.
May suit dry, coarse, or high-porosity hair that benefits from added slip and a more substantial conditioning film.
Deposits with the cationic conditioners and helps them lie flat along the strand, which is where the detangling actually comes from.
Consider if hair is fine or easily flattened: a formula built heavily around fatty alcohols can feel richer than a lightweight conditioner.
A rich conditioning agent used in heavier masks for detangling and a coated, smooth feel.
Listed in the first three ingredients, it is likely a structural part of this formula.
A cationic conditioning agent: it binds to the damaged, negatively charged parts of the cuticle and lowers combing friction there.
The class that does the detangling in a conditioner. It deposits lubrication where the cuticle is worn.
Substantive by design. A routine with no detergent wash gives it nothing to leave with.
A positively charged conditioning agent that binds to damaged, negatively charged spots on the hair. It is the main detangling ingredient in most rinse-out conditioners.
Listed in positions 4–8, it likely makes a meaningful contribution alongside the formula's main ingredients.
Electrokinetic measurement puts the C22 quat ahead of the C16 ones for deposition: the longer chain adds van der Waals stabilisation on top of the charge binding. That extra deposit is what coarse hair usually needs to comb through.
A cationic conditioning agent: it binds to the damaged, negatively charged parts of the cuticle and lowers combing friction there.
Substantive by design. A routine with no detergent wash gives it nothing to leave with.
A small water-loving molecule that draws moisture into the hair and holds it there. It is the most common softening ingredient in conditioners and leave-ins.
Listed in positions 4–8, it likely makes a meaningful contribution alongside the formula's main ingredients.
High-porosity hair loses water fast; a humectant holds some of it in place for longer than the wash itself would.
Binds water into the outer layers of the strand, and water is what makes dry hair flexible again rather than brittle.
Water moves both ways. Measured across concentrations, glycerin solutions give water up in some conditions and take it from the air in others. What it does for you depends on how much of it is there and on the air around it.
A conditioning silicone with a positive charge, so it deposits where hair is damaged and stays through rinsing.
Listed in positions 4–8, it likely makes a meaningful contribution alongside the formula's main ingredients.
A surface film slows how quickly humidity reaches the cortex, which is what limits swelling-driven frizz in damp air.
Amino-functional silicone carries a positive charge, so it binds where the cuticle is worn rather than coating evenly. Damaged areas get most of it.
Film formers are what hold a style: they dry into a connected film across the strands so the shape resists movement.
A plant butter that is slightly lighter than shea, used in curl creams.
Listed in positions 4–8, it likely makes a meaningful contribution alongside the formula's main ingredients.
Coarse, porous hair loses water quickly and can carry the weight; a butter slows that loss more than a thin oil does.
Emollients fill and smooth the surface of the strand, which lowers the friction that lifts the cuticle and reads as roughness.
A solid fat melts onto the strand at body temperature and stays there, which is the heaviest surface moisture-holding a formula can offer.
An extract from the flower of Gardenia Tahitensis. Plant extracts are used across a wide range of levels, and label order is the best guide to how much is here.
Listed in positions 4–8, it likely makes a meaningful contribution alongside the formula's main ingredients.
A cellulose thickener that gives gels and conditioners their body and adds a soft, flexible film.
Lower in the ordered portion of the list, it is more likely playing a supporting role than defining the formula.
A polysaccharide film stays softer than a synthetic one as it dries, which is what leaves a curl defined but still able to move.
A soft film binds neighbouring strands together, which is most of what keeps flyaways lying down without stiffness.
Gum films stay soft. A style that needs firm fixation usually wants a synthetic polymer doing the holding.
An undisclosed blend of scent ingredients. Regulations let it stay unlisted, so a fragrance-free product is the only way to be certain what is not in it.
It appears around or below the estimated 1% line, where label order no longer indicates relative amount; its role may be minor or technical.
Declared fragrance. On a fragrance-sensitive routine this is the line that decides it, wherever it sits on the label.
A floral fragrance component listed separately as a recognised contact allergen.
It appears around or below the estimated 1% line, where label order no longer indicates relative amount; its role may be minor or technical.
One of the 26 scent components the EU requires to be named individually above a threshold. It is named because it is a known contact allergen, not because it is unusual.
A jasmine-like fragrance component named separately as a recognised allergen.
It appears around or below the estimated 1% line, where label order no longer indicates relative amount; its role may be minor or technical.
One of the 26 scent components the EU requires to be named individually above a threshold. It is named because it is a known contact allergen, not because it is unusual.
A sweet, hay-like fragrance component listed separately as a recognised allergen.
It appears around or below the estimated 1% line, where label order no longer indicates relative amount; its role may be minor or technical.
One of the 26 scent components the EU requires to be named individually above a threshold. It is named because it is a known contact allergen, not because it is unusual.
A preservative booster that also adds a little softness. Almost always paired with phenoxyethanol.
It appears around or below the estimated 1% line, where label order no longer indicates relative amount; its role may be minor or technical.
Emollients fill and smooth the surface of the strand, which lowers the friction that lifts the cuticle and reads as roughness.
Used to bring the product to a slightly acidic pH, which helps the cuticle lie flat. It is almost always near the end of the list.
It appears around or below the estimated 1% line, where label order no longer indicates relative amount; its role may be minor or technical.
Holds hard-water minerals in solution so they rinse away instead of depositing on the hair.
The acid side of pH adjustment, and the reason it matters is measured: alkaline formulas raise the fibre's surface negative charge, increase friction between strands and lift the scales, while lower-pH ones do the reverse.
Where a warm cast comes from water minerals rather than from the hair itself, holding those metals in solution is what removes it.
Ingredient list captured 2026-08-22. Formulas change — check the package in your hand when an ingredient matters to you.
Price · 15.2 oz
Priced above the products that do the same job. Stores sell it above the $9 line; products that do this job typically go for about $10 at this size.
Sorted by price per ounce. Dated observations from our research, not live prices. Direct store pages, no affiliate links. We don’t sell this product.
Formula
This formula covers the systems a conditioner is built around, and it costs less per ounce than most of the conditioners we have researched.
The formula score is completeness for the job: the share of the systems this product type is normally built around that we can find in this list, weighted. It is not efficacy, not quality, and it never compares across product types.
Does the same job, for less
Same derived functions — what it cleans, conditions, coats or holds — at a lower cost per ounce. Scent, texture and where you buy it can still differ.
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Final decision
Hair that stiffens on protein — for a protein-free formula and real detangling slip
Not ideal for anyone sensitive to fragrance, curly-method routines, or soft, over-stretchy hair that needs protein
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Claims check
Claims are quoted from the brand. We only mark one supported, partly supported, or conflicting when the ingredient list actually speaks to it; everything else stays "stated by the brand", which is not a criticism — most claims simply cannot be read off a label.
98% naturally derived ingredients
A brand-run study. We report it as stated and do not repeat the number as fact.
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Only the brand’s testing shows this.
Intensely nourishes to define curls
Humectants or rich emollients sit in the first eight ingredients.
Helps hair feel hydrated.
Superior slip detangles and tames frizz
Conditioning agents that reduce combing force sit high in the list.
Easier detangling, less breakage.
Sulfate surfactant free, paraben free, drying alcohols free
No parabens appear in the ingredient list.
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Preserved without parabens.
Dermatologist tested
A brand-run study. We report it as stated and do not repeat the number as fact.
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Only the brand’s testing shows this.
We look at the first 10–15 ingredients and what they do in a formula — not marketing. If the list doesn't speak to a claim, we don't assume.
Reviewers
Recurring themes our researchers wrote in their own words from sourced reviews. We do not store or scrape star ratings.
Many reviewers describe it as a years-long 'holy grail' staple, valued for having no silicones, drying alcohols, heavy oils, or excess protein.
curly-girl-method-aware, multi-year usersReviewers describe it as a well-balanced conditioner that defines curls without weighing hair down, including on 3a curl patterns.
3a curly hair, 5+ year usersAt least one reviewer specifically dislikes the pump dispenser on the current brand-site bottle, calling it wasteful compared to the old Target packaging.
single reviewer, packaging-specificRepeated, strongly worded complaints that Target no longer carries it, with reviewers asking the brand to bring it back to retail shelves.
longtime buyersSome longtime users say the brand's newer replacement product lines have disappointing ingredients and results compared to this discontinued-from-retail formula.
longtime users comparing to newer NYM lines