Fights brass tones in lightened hair
This is a marketing claim; an ingredient list cannot speak to it.
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Can’t be confirmed from label.
Conditioner / Everyday rinse-out, detangling
Scent:
Notes: floral.
Manufacturer page: notyourmothers.com
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Priced with its peers
$1.12/oz at 8 oz — less than 65% of the 689 conditioners , which mostly run $0.91–3.10/oz.
Great for
Maybe skip if
What the formula actually does
Each row says where it comes from: F means we derived it from this product’s own ingredient list, S means it is a claim the brand makes that the formula neither confirms nor contradicts.
Conditioning agents sit high in the list — this is a detangling formula.
No oils or butters in the list.
Middle of the range — noticeable on fine hair, light on coarse hair.
Humectants in the working part of the formula.
Protein appears, low enough to be a supporting ingredient.
Nothing here needs a detergent wash to remove.
Chelators are present — they bind hard-water and pool minerals.
Fragrance is listed; it sits below the working ingredients.
Ingredients that matter
The workhorse ingredients plus anything lower down that changes a decision. These chips name what an ingredient does — they are not safety scores, and no ingredient here is rated good or bad on its own.
| Ingredient | What it does | Why it matters | Chip |
|---|---|---|---|
| WaterWater (Aqua) | solvent | The base everything else is dissolved in | Neutral |
| Cetearyl Alcohol | fatty alcohol | Thickens and conditions — not a drying alcohol | Softens |
| Cetyl Alcohol | fatty alcohol | Thickens and conditions — not a drying alcohol | Softens |
| Behentrimonium Chloride | conditioning agent | Conditions and softens — this is what makes it comb through | Detangles |
| Stearalkonium Chloride | conditioning agent | Conditions and softens — this is what makes it comb through | Detangles |
| Caprylic/Capric Triglyceride | light ester | Light slip without much weight | Softens |
| Propanediol | humectant | Pulls water into the hair | Moisturizes |
| Itaconic Acid | pH adjuster | Fine-tunes the pH | pH balancer |
| Hydrolyzed Quinoa | film former | A supporting film former | Protein |
| FragranceFragrance (Parfum) | fragrance | The scent | Fragrance |
| Phenoxyethanol | preservative | Keeps the product from spoiling | Stabilizes |
| Ethylhexylglycerin | preservative | Keeps the product from spoiling | Softens |
US labelling rules put ingredients above 1% in descending order of amount; below 1% they may be listed in any order. Annotations keep three readings separate: the ingredient's general function, its role in this product type, and what its position can support.
The base of almost every rinse-off and cream hair product. It carries everything else and is normally the first ingredient on the label.
Listed in the first three ingredients, it is likely a structural part of this formula.
A waxy fatty alcohol - nothing like drying alcohol. It gives conditioners their body and leaves a soft, smoothing film on the hair.
In conditioner, cetearyl alcohol gives the emulsion its creamy structure and helps it spread evenly through the hair. Its emollient layer adds slip and a smoother feel.
Listed in the first three ingredients, it is likely a structural part of this formula.
May suit dry, coarse, or high-porosity hair that benefits from added slip and a more substantial conditioning film.
Deposits with the cationic conditioners and helps them lie flat along the strand, which is where the detangling actually comes from.
Consider if hair is fine or easily flattened: a formula built heavily around fatty alcohols can feel richer than a lightweight conditioner.
A fatty alcohol used to thicken creams and add slip. It softens rather than dries.
Listed in the first three ingredients, it is likely a structural part of this formula.
The waxy solid that gives a conditioner its body. It deposits a soft lubricating layer, which is most of what makes hair feel smooth after rinsing.
Deposits with the cationic conditioners and helps them lie flat along the strand, which is where the detangling actually comes from.
Near the top of a conditioner it is doing most of the conditioning, and most of the weighting, at the same time.
A positively charged conditioning agent that binds to damaged, negatively charged spots on the hair. It is the main detangling ingredient in most rinse-out conditioners.
Listed in positions 4–8, it likely makes a meaningful contribution alongside the formula's main ingredients.
Electrokinetic measurement puts the C22 quat ahead of the C16 ones for deposition: the longer chain adds van der Waals stabilisation on top of the charge binding. That extra deposit is what coarse hair usually needs to comb through.
A cationic conditioning agent: it binds to the damaged, negatively charged parts of the cuticle and lowers combing friction there.
Substantive by design. A routine with no detergent wash gives it nothing to leave with.
A long-standing conditioning agent that flattens the cuticle and cuts static. It rinses less completely than newer alternatives.
Listed in positions 4–8, it likely makes a meaningful contribution alongside the formula's main ingredients.
A cationic conditioning agent: it binds to the damaged, negatively charged parts of the cuticle and lowers combing friction there.
The class that does the detangling in a conditioner. It deposits lubrication where the cuticle is worn.
Substantive by design. A routine with no detergent wash gives it nothing to leave with.
A light, refined coconut-derived oil that spreads easily and does not go rancid. It gives slip without a heavy feel.
Listed in positions 4–8, it likely makes a meaningful contribution alongside the formula's main ingredients.
A light emollient: it softens the surface with noticeably less weight than an oil or a butter.
Spreads thin and lowers friction between strands without the heaviness of a fixed oil.
A corn-derived humectant and solvent, often chosen as a lighter-feeling alternative to propylene glycol.
Listed in positions 4–8, it likely makes a meaningful contribution alongside the formula's main ingredients.
Light and water-binding rather than oily, so it hydrates without contributing weight.
A small water-binding solvent. It holds moisture and helps the rest of the formula spread evenly over the strand.
A humectant follows the air: it holds water in humid conditions and can give it up in very dry ones. Climate decides what it does more than the label does.
A fermentation-derived acid used to set pH and as a building block for hold polymers.
It appears around or below the estimated 1% line, where label order no longer indicates relative amount; its role may be minor or technical.
pH adjusters are how a formula is brought to a chosen acidity, and an acidic formula keeps the cuticle lying flatter than an alkaline one. Which way this one moves the pH depends on the formula, and the finished pH is not on the label.
An amino acid that holds water and carries a positive charge, so it is drawn to damaged spots on the strand.
It appears around or below the estimated 1% line, where label order no longer indicates relative amount; its role may be minor or technical.
Amino acids are the smallest protein fraction and bind water as well, so they add far less stiffness than a hydrolysed protein does.
A humectant follows the air: it holds water in humid conditions and can give it up in very dry ones. Climate decides what it does more than the label does.
The lightest option in the protein family, but still protein — worth watching if protein reliably stiffens your hair.
Provitamin B5. It draws in water and penetrates the strand a little, which is why it is the standard ingredient for softness and shine claims.
It appears around or below the estimated 1% line, where label order no longer indicates relative amount; its role may be minor or technical.
It hydrates without adding oil or a film, which is the combination fine hair usually needs.
Deposits a lubricating layer that makes combing easier, which is most of what stops mechanical damage adding to frizz.
A humectant that also penetrates the cuticle, so it holds water inside the strand rather than only on the surface.
Flaxseed gel. A natural polysaccharide that gives soft, flexible hold in curl products.
It appears around or below the estimated 1% line, where label order no longer indicates relative amount; its role may be minor or technical.
A polysaccharide film stays softer than a synthetic one as it dries, which is what leaves a curl defined but still able to move.
A soft film binds neighbouring strands together, which is most of what keeps flyaways lying down without stiffness.
Gum films stay soft. A style that needs firm fixation usually wants a synthetic polymer doing the holding.
A quick-acting conditioning agent that reduces static and combing force. It also helps keep the formula stable.
It appears around or below the estimated 1% line, where label order no longer indicates relative amount; its role may be minor or technical.
The C16 quat binds mostly by charge rather than by chain, so it deposits measurably less than the C22 ones. Less deposit is less conditioning and also less weight, which is usually the trade fine hair wants.
A cationic conditioning agent: it binds to the damaged, negatively charged parts of the cuticle and lowers combing friction there.
Substantive by design. A routine with no detergent wash gives it nothing to leave with.
A quinoa-derived protein used for light strengthening and colour retention claims.
It appears around or below the estimated 1% line, where label order no longer indicates relative amount; its role may be minor or technical.
Filling surface gaps evens out the cuticle, which is part of what makes damaged hair comb and reflect light more like undamaged hair.
Film formers are what hold a style: they dry into a connected film across the strands so the shape resists movement.
Hydrolysed fragments are small enough to sit in the gaps of a worn cuticle for a wash or two, temporarily restoring stiffness and cutting breakage in combing.
A cellulose thickener that gives gels and conditioners their body and adds a soft, flexible film.
It appears around or below the estimated 1% line, where label order no longer indicates relative amount; its role may be minor or technical.
A polysaccharide film stays softer than a synthetic one as it dries, which is what leaves a curl defined but still able to move.
A soft film binds neighbouring strands together, which is most of what keeps flyaways lying down without stiffness.
Gum films stay soft. A style that needs firm fixation usually wants a synthetic polymer doing the holding.
A biodegradable hard-water chelator used in place of EDTA.
It appears around or below the estimated 1% line, where label order no longer indicates relative amount; its role may be minor or technical.
Binds the calcium and magnesium in hard water, which is what stops mineral deposits accumulating on the strand wash after wash.
Copper and iron carried in tap water deposit on the strand and read as a dull, warm cast on gray or light hair. A chelator holds those metals in solution so the wash carries them off.
A light humectant and carrier that helps extracts dissolve.
It appears around or below the estimated 1% line, where label order no longer indicates relative amount; its role may be minor or technical.
Light and water-binding rather than oily, so it hydrates without contributing weight.
A small water-binding solvent. It holds moisture and helps the rest of the formula spread evenly over the strand.
A humectant follows the air: it holds water in humid conditions and can give it up in very dry ones. Climate decides what it does more than the label does.
An undisclosed blend of scent ingredients. Regulations let it stay unlisted, so a fragrance-free product is the only way to be certain what is not in it.
It appears around or below the estimated 1% line, where label order no longer indicates relative amount; its role may be minor or technical.
Declared fragrance. On a fragrance-sensitive routine this is the line that decides it, wherever it sits on the label.
A preservative booster that also adds a little softness. Almost always paired with phenoxyethanol.
It appears around or below the estimated 1% line, where label order no longer indicates relative amount; its role may be minor or technical.
Emollients fill and smooth the surface of the strand, which lowers the friction that lifts the cuticle and reads as roughness.
A certified colour that tints the product itself. It does not colour hair.
It appears around or below the estimated 1% line, where label order no longer indicates relative amount; its role may be minor or technical.
A violet or blue colorant sits opposite yellow on the colour wheel, so a trace of it deposited on the surface makes a warm cast read cooler. It washes out over the following few washes.
Ingredient list captured 2026-08-22. Formulas change — check the package in your hand when an ingredient matters to you.
Price · 8 oz
Usually a good value. Most stores sell it under the $15 line, and products that do this job typically go for about $27 at this size.
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Formula
The formula carries the systems a conditioner is built around, and it sits in the middle of the range for conditioners per ounce.
The formula score is completeness for the job: the share of the systems this product type is normally built around that we can find in this list, weighted. It is not efficacy, not quality, and it never compares across product types.
Does the same job, for less
Same derived functions — what it cleans, conditions, coats or holds — at a lower cost per ounce. Scent, texture and where you buy it can still differ.
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Final decision
People who want maximum slip, looking for real detangling slip and moisture that stays in
Worth skipping for anyone sensitive to fragrance
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Fights brass tones in lightened hair
This is a marketing claim; an ingredient list cannot speak to it.
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Can’t be confirmed from label.
Bonding technology to repair/strengthen
Protein or ceramides are present, but low enough that this reads as support, not treatment.
Supports the surface, not a treatment.
Hydrates while conditioning
Humectants or rich emollients sit in the first eight ingredients.
Helps hair feel hydrated.
Sulfate-free, silicone-free, paraben-free, vegan, cruelty-free
No sulfate detergents appear in the ingredient list.
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Gentler on colour and coils.
We look at the first 10–15 ingredients and what they do in a formula — not marketing. If the list doesn't speak to a claim, we don't assume.
Reviewers
Recurring themes our researchers wrote in their own words from sourced reviews. We do not store or scrape star ratings.
Used together with the matching purple shampoo, reported as effective at maintaining tone on gray/silver and blonde hair between salon visits
gray/silver and balayage-maintenance reviewersReported as helping extend time between professional bleaching/toning appointments, seen as a money- and time-saver
reviewers who color-treat regularlyPraised as hydrating/moisturizing while still delivering visible brass reduction, described by some as usable as a no-poo/co-wash step
general reviewers, some using as a co-washA minority of reviewers with damaged/bleached hair report it left hair dry, frizzy, or tangled, sometimes referencing missing a discontinued NYM formula (Blue Sea Kale) they preferred
reviewers with heavily bleached/damaged hair